Categorizing Feelings – JL

Hi!! I have a question about categorizing feelings for this month’s homework. I’m getting a little confused between categorizing the feeling by itself – vs. categorizing the thought causing the feeling. For example: Unintentional Model:
C: conversation w/ husband
T: He is so goddamn negative
F: Anger
A: Think negative thoughts, act snippy and reactive towards him
R: I become negative.
So in general, anger is an emotion I do want to experience in my life. However, the thought causing that anger feels like an indulgent thought. I indulge in negative thinking about my husband often and the resulting anger feels indulgent as the thoughts I have about him are just thoughts. Does that make sense?? Any clarity on this heady subject would be great.
Thanks for all the help!