Desire for husband

Hi Brooke, I have been married for 26 years and have felt virtually no desire for my husband after we had our two boys 24 and 22 years ago. Physically we’ve both let ourselves go which doesn’t help. He’s an engineer and pretty non-emotional. He had an affair 7 years ago but we decided to stay together for the kids and then decide. That time has arrived and I’m scared and stuck. I want to want my husband and I know I can change my thoughts but it feels so damn fake.

I feel so closed off and dead when I think of him. How can I change these thoughts and feelings?