Feeling my urges or resisting?

I’m a little bit confused about feeling the difference between allowing an urge and resisting it. I logically get it- one is allowing and open to it, and the other is shoving it down and willpowering it away. But in the moment when an urge comes up, I can’t really tell the difference. I think it still feels like willpower, but I’m not 100% sure. Today I was feeling an urge to eat- anything of my plan really- and I think I allowed it because I realized I was just bored. But I’m not sure if I just wanted to distract myself? Thanks so much for your help!