Husband Resentful

This is the C:husband says he is resentful. T: he shouldn’t be F: anger. A: explain why it isn’t my fault. R: ?

New thought- of course he is resentful F: calmer at first but then panic at idea it could be my fault. Augh. Trouble finding useful thought. I think the result I want is for him to not be resentful and I can’t control that.

So what is the feeling I am going for with that -How will I feel if he isn’t resentful- I will feel respected and secure. Are those feelings available to me now? How can I respect myself and feel secure in myself now? …. am I on track with this sequence? Did I derail anywhere? Thanks!!!