I Want To Be Annoyed

I was annoyed with my husband last night when he wanted to discuss the kids and their cleaning habits. I recognize that I caused my feelings with my thoughts. I just wanted him to stop complaining and lecturing. He said he was trying to get “buy-in” for chore systems that I created. He really just wants me and the kids to change and is upset with us about it. I want to say, “I don’t care as much about messes and I prefer to be patient with myself and the kids as we improve over time. Sorry babe.” I would rather have a happy home than a clean one so when he starts complaining I just don’t want to hear it.