if you get to decide the experience you want?

I have found it very beneficial to read most of the postings in Ask a Coach. I am confused by one coaches comments:
“Ultimately, if you get to decide the experience you want, how would you like to think and feel about this situation in order to create the result you want for yourself?”

I know the Scholar was talking about a possible lawsuit. Is that what was meant by “If you get to decide” because it was a possible lawsuit and you can’t change people? What other Cs fall into this category.? What Cs do not fall into this category?

I know models are for awareness and possibly or potentially a tool to “change” the way you want to have an experience and how you think about it. Take massive action, let it go, acceptance only if you like your reasons. Some clarity please. And again thanks for this helpful tool of Ask a Coach!