Im having difficulty with Anger because of my relationship with my husband

I’ve spent more time trying to convince my husband of the things that i dont like and now he saying im barading him. He tries to turn it around as if its all on me instead of having an open honest conversation. It doesnt matter what its about because any time i try to talk he shuts it down. I would like a conversation and he just refuses,if I persist, he says im barading him. Ive been in scholars for three months now and i know that i need to put him and his actions in the c line im just having a hard time with it because my feeling is that this is not the kind if relationship i had hoped for and i get very angry, hurt, etc. i want to get past this so its a non issue for me and am having difficulty. Any suggestions?