Model help part 2

Thank you for helping me with this issue. I am looking for further understanding. My confusion happens when there is a behavior I would not choose or prefer yet still exists. I do not want to spend my time in a state of “wishing things were different” but the coach stated “I get to decide if this is a problem or not.” How do I approach this when I don’t approve but also don’t want to live in a place of always wishing or waiting for things to be different? By continuing to feel this way I stay stuck yet I’m not sure how to manage my thoughts around respecting their ability to choose and my own beliefs. This is where I feel I get stuck.