Model to model

Can you help me with this model series.

c – husband says “you’re over reacting” to my concern about our son

t – he’s judging me again

f – frustrated

a – try to control him by asking him not to judge me

r – conversation is about us and not our son


c- he says “you’re over reacting”

t- he’s wrong about my reaction but he can think whatever he wants

f – calm

a- continue the discussion about our son

r – have a conversation about our son

I don’t see how the T and the R are connected in the Intentional Model. Can you advise?