Money Question

I am working on being a person who is in control of her money. I have the ability to make money but there’s been some big expenses that have dwindled my account. Today I checked one of my accounts and it was negative. For the first time in my life I saw that as a C and didn’t shame myself for the negative balance. I simply transferred money and it’s fine. I am ok with the thought “I am learning to become a person who is in control of her money.” But I am also done with it. I am ready to start actually being in control. Can u help me with some powerful thoughts to think? I am not quite to believing “I am in control of my money.”