My Husband Gets Irrationally Extremely Angry At Me And I Want To Set A Boundary To Help Us Move Forward

I am clear that I need to set a boundary regarding the way my husband interacts with me sometimes. But I want to be careful, well thought out and loving of both myself and him during this conversation. Brooke mentioned in the September work podcast that see set a boundary with her mother that set the tone for an incredible relationship going forward. It was perfect timing, when I heard that, because I had already decided to set a boundary with him. I wanted to get guidance on how to proceed. What steps did she take and boundaries did she set that allowed her to be clear and definitive but come from a calm loving place.