NLP -lp

Neuro linguistic programming says when we think “I don’t want a long distance relationship”, the unconscious mind pictures the long distance relationship and then it goes out to go get that. It doesn’t register the “not”, like how Abraham says we can shout no at something and attract it – there’s no exclusion. So, I’m wondering how this works with the model. Because I for sure have evidence of this being true – I think I don’t want an LDR, for example, and then find myself in one. Can you help me understand how the model and this concept are related?