Hi Brooke,
I would like to apologise for getting the times mixed up on Thursday, which did not allow me to attend the live call (and I was down for coaching too). I really appreciated that you took the time and answered my question on overwhelm anyway. You are awesome. I have just watched the video back and have a question. I am going to do what you suggest, and am going to complete thought downloads on my thought drama around my to do list. However what I am finding challenging is that there are things on my to do list that I don’t want to do, but feel like I must. (Sorry, I know) I may be choosing to do it, because I feel I have to, but I really don’t want to, so it’s hard to ‘own this’.
I am going to give you an example: I don’t want to work on my late fathers estate and business anymore.

Why I don’t want to do it:
• It has almost been a year and I want to get on with my life and focus on other things that bring me joy and happiness. This does not.
• I find this stressful and It drains me
• I have other things I need /want to focus on
• I’m upset that I don’t have time for enjoyment/relaxation/self care because this takes up any spare time
• I have a sister who wants the process dragged out, due to her personal circumstances (a divorce). I want it completed asap. This is really stressing me out and she blocks any progress/ work I put in, which is hugely disheartening and stressful.
• I do not want to be tied in and working with my sister who unfortunately has been physically and verbally abusive to all the family and has stolen things, she also has mental health issues and so unfortunately is incapable and untrustworthy. This sister has a lot of time to push the business forward, as she is currently not in employment.
• There is too much to do and I have very limited time
• I can’t do this properly as I don’t have the time to complete it
• I want to give more time to kids, who are both still really young, I am angry it is taking my time away from them

Why I want to do it
• To ensure it gets done in the best interests of all the beneficiaries
• To be involved in order to keep an eye on my sister who has proven to be untrustworthy
• To ensure it gets completed in a timely manner
• There is so much to do, we need as many people completing work as possible or it will take many years
• I have a personal interest that things get done fairly, so that my sister does not try and claim more of the estate than is her fair share
• The sooner it gets done the quicker we can all go our separate ways and don’t have to work together, which is causing a lot of arguments and disputes
• If we can sort things we all will have some inheritance and will be able to feel more comfortable financially.

So how do I own this? Just focus on why I want to do it? It doesn’t seem to negate the reasons why I don’t want to do it though, which will keep coming up for me, right?

Could you share your wisdom with me on this.
Thanks a million Brookie xxx