Pros and cons list – is there a better way?

Dear Brooke, my husband has a job offer in a new city that neither of us know. He’s keen to go, I’m not. We’ve discussed living apart. We have young kids. I know that I need to make a decision swiftly and commit to it. But I also know this decision will have major implications for our whole family. I really admire your decisiveness and wonder if there is a process you recommend for making big decisions – I find making lists of pros and cons often doesn’t clarify things (especially when there are many unknowns) and I’m wary about using gut feel as a way to decide. Is there a way to use the model to come to a clean decision?