Scarcity Mindset

Please help me to ask myself questions that will help to release a scarcity mindset. I compulsively check my bank account and view my finances as different than what my husband and I have together. I spent some time with my mother recently and realized she does the same thing. It was easier to see it in her than in myself.
C My bank account
T I don’t have enough
F Anxiety, Fear
A Compulsively checking accounts
R Avoid other things, live in anxiety