Urge Jar fiasco

hello , I need so guidance with my thinking around all the material and being focused on weight loss – i have been 11 lbs over my ideal weight – back and forth , back and forth . I am not even bringing it up at my coaching sessions because i know exactly where the truth lies – urges and me giving in on regular basis. i decided to spend this month on taking Urge Jar course again, and now i feel that i need to start doing this month work as well, in order not to feel behind, which i know is optional, but my current thoughts are not belivable to me. please, point me in right direction- i want to stop learn to allow urges!!! thank you