Nervous about business


I’m thinking to myself that I may not be able to make money in my business, and it will be hard, and I’ll be bringing all my problems at work into my business.

And what I’m realizing is that I cannot think the thought “I may not be able to make money in my business” (even though it’s “true”) and feel good.

So, if I want to feel good and not nervous while building this business, I can’t think that thought.

I’m thinking it right now because it seems true and seems to be protecting me from failure – something along the lines of T: If I’m aware of the risks, I’ll try harder, or protect myself, etc.

But I can see from these models that in fact, that thought doesn’t create “protection” (what’s protection anyway?) and certainly does not create money, lol.

C: Idea for business
T: I may not be able to make money in my business
F: Nervous
A: Spin in thoughts, try to make plans to make it ok not to make money, re-decide again if I want to quit my job or not, talk about my doubts to my husband, spend time worrying, not spend on business activities
R: I don’t make money in my business

C: Decision to quit job
T: I may not be able to make money in my business
F: Nervous
A: Re-think my decision
R: ? Less clear – this model might be off. Maybe “I don’t make progress in business or life”

Very cool!

I had come here wanting someone to tell me that it’s ok not to think “I may not be able to make money in my business”. That that thought isn’t serving me. And it’s not.

It still feels a bit foolish to let it go, feels a bit delusional not to think it – “well you don’t *know* what will happen.”

But I also see that I can just not think it, I don’t have to believe it, and it causes pain.

So I think I will be able to let it go eventually.

Do you have any suggestions on what I’ve said?