My last post answer talked about me being the authority in my business and making my decisions from my inner knowing – not external. Here is my response to the questions:

So when I notice the thought “I don’t want to fall into therapy land” – I ask myself why?

I don’t want to get in trouble.

That’s literally all I guess. My brain isn’t offering anything more than that. So then – get in trouble? What does that mean? My brain thinks I will be reported by someone as acting as a therapist when I’m not and I can clearly take steps to delineate where therapy is recommended and where coaching begins. We actually have the therapist panel to defer to for clarification.

And if I’m reported, which I am not sure how I would be reported or to whom, so what? Then I can further clarify my mission statement, how I can help, who I can help, and when I refer out.

Here is my model:

C: I am considering coaching women who have experienced addiction, but are not actively addicted. I notice I have the thought “I don’t want to fall into therapy-land”
T: I don’t want to get in trouble
F: worry
A: waffle in indecision about doing this niche, indulge in the worry and take zero actions to delineate who I can help, when I would refer, don’t decide my code or ethics, don’t offer to help people, buffer with social media looking for “the” answer, don’t use the resources I have available, don’t trust my own authority over my life and business, assign moral value of good or bad, look outside of myself for answers
R: I create more trouble for myself.
R: I don’t make a decision.
R: I resist a future scenario that might not even happen.
R: I make trouble for myself in the here and now.

That really helped clarify what’s happening here. By thinking I don’t want to be in trouble – I put myself in trouble and also MAKE trouble for myself by not deciding clear separation and expectations for my business and my clients.

With a thought like this IM – I can handle anything that comes my way.

C: same
T: I trust myself to set clear policies and ethics for my business
F: confident
A: I decide what boundaries, ethics, and policies I have in place for coaching women, I decide when to refer out, I have documentation supporting how to find help if referred out, I am clear about what I am willing to coach on, I make decisions, I support myself
R: I have my own back in my business

How do my models look? I feel I really nailed it on the UM.