Dear Coaches,
I am putting together a prepare for birth course to help pregnant women who are afraid of birth go from feeling fear and panic about their birth to feeling calm and courageous.
I am going to share some unintentional models from my own birth and pregnancy experiences. Please could I get some feedback on these models? Sometimes I do not get the result quite right.
Huge thanks for your insight and guidance.
A very excited scholar starting on my business journey.

Circumstance: Spoke to my Mother about her birth
Thought: My Mum had a positive experience with a quick birth
Feeling: Reassured
Action: Googled home births, spoke to husband about benefits of home birth, imagined myself giving birth at home,
Result: I Feel more informed about a home birth and my birth choices

Circumstance: Read information about birth interventions such as forceps, etc
Thought: I don’t want any interventions
Feeling: Fear
Action: Stop reading, thoughts spinning around my head for next few days, worry, stop preparing for my birth and researching my birth plan
Result: I undermine my confidence in a positive birth experience

C: Hospital consultant advises I should be induced to give birth at 38 weeks
T: I do not want to be induced and experience more pain and not be able to move in labour
F: fear
A: Try and bring on labour from 37 weeks, focus on trying to make a home water birth happen, I tried to bring on the birth with raspberry leaf tea, accupuncture, curry, hot baths, bouncing and circling on the birthing ball, taking walks, kissing and massage
R: My actions were driven by fear

C: 48 hours after my waters have broken I did not go into labour, the hospital advise me to go in for an induction immediately to prevent infection
T: I do not want to be induced, this is not how my birth was supposed to happen
F: Devastated
A: Cry, grieve my home birth,
R: Argue with reality, do not help my body to go into labour by not creating the right hormones to help labour start

C: 48 hours after my waters have broken I did not go into labour, the hospital advise me to go in for an induction immediately to prevent infection
T: I will ask for a c section to avoid induction
F: Relief
A: Consider c section despite it not being the natural birth I want and being a detailed medical procedure with risks and long recovery period
R: I am out of integrity with myself, I am making decisions driven by fear

C: 48 hours after my waters have broken I did not go into labour, the hospital advise me to go in for an induction immediately to prevent infection
T: I do not want to put by baby at risk of infection, it is time to have an induction
F: decisive
A: go into hospital, explain fears to midwives, ask to be able to move during induction, take action to feel calm, focus on creating the right hormones and environment for birth, use my relaxation breathing exercises, kiss my husband and use massage
R: feel committed to birth and accept reality