Validation Please

I’ve read some of the validation topics below and even know that we don’t need validation to think positive thoughts about our work… HOWEVER, how do we know if we are doing good work? I have one client that completely ghosted me after what I thought was an amazing session and another client that sought me out to continue working with me after a not-so-productive session. How do I know which to believe???!!! Sidebar, as a mother I’m used to not being validated, lol, but I am okay with that because I know I’m doing the very best job I can for them. How come I can’t transfer THAT mindset to my business?