Being Let Down

Dear Brooke, recently I’ve felt let down a few times, particularly by people who I felt didn’t act professionally or family members who didn’t act with integrity or kindness. I went back and listened to episode 145 (so helpful!) and used models to reframe these as learning opportunities. My question is, should I lower my expectations for these people moving forward? For example I have a friend who sometimes gossips. I want to keep my expectations high but is that a bit naive? Is part of the learning to set more realistic expectations for the world and specific people? So in the case of my friend I could still spend time with her but expect her to gossip and accept that’s OK or protect myself from it. I can see lowered expectations will mean fewer instances of being let down but something about it feels out of integrity; I want to ask the best of myself and the people in my life.