blind man


So there is a blind man who I recently met at church, and I’m trying to work on my thoughts about him (and me).

It boils down to the fact that I am uncomfortable being around him because I don’t know how to interact with him, I feel a lot of shame about this.

Unintentional thoughts;
I just don’t know how to interact with him.
What if I do the wrong thing?
I should be accepting of all people, especially those with disabilities.
I am comfortable around people with other types of disabilities, why not him?
He doesn’t need me to interact with him anyway.

UM
C Man who happens to be blind
T I don’t know how to interact with him
F Shame
A Avoid him
R I never learn how to interact with him

IM
C Man who happens to be blind
T I can learn how to interact with him (but still believing he is “different”)
F shame
A think about how I could interact with him, but I still feel shame and I still avoid him
R I don’t learn how to interact with him

OK, so I can see that the IM doesn’t work for me because I am still feeling shame. I am judging myself for judging him. So then what next? Do I put shame in the C line? The F line?

UM
C shame
T my IM won’t work if the feeling driving it is shame
F shame
A buffer
R models don’t work

IM
C shame
T It’s Ok. I’m going to work on/process this feeling to move forward
F determination
A sit with shame; allow it; write ask Brooke question
R Process shame and move forward to next model