Boundary fail?

My husband was mad about something and not respectful about it. I asked twice for him to speak to me with respect. He didnt.

I said: I’m not going to continue this discussion bc you’re not speaking with respect.

He said: Fine, I’m leaving and I’m not coming home tonight.


He gets to do what he wants. But what he wants is to disrespect me. I am working on boundaries. And this feels like a failure. But it’s success right? I just need to work on the consequence that he might not accept the boundary and then it ends?