Can you help me with the result of this unintentional model?

C Daughter
T I wish I could be the mom that I want to be.
F Grief
A Buffer; get angry or just avoid my daughter when she is upset.
R

Is the result “I’m not being the mom that I want to be”?

Also, I’m having a hard time coming up with a thought for my intentional model. I have come up with a lot of bridge thoughts, but I would like some help getting to a believable thoughts.

My current bridge thought “I am the mom that she has”

Intentional model

C Daughter
T
F Love
A be with her in peace and love when she is upset
R

-Samantha