Could you help me get clarity around something? As I’ve worked to drop manuals for the people in my life, I am getting much stronger at accepting that adults can be and do whatever they like but it’s coupled with some victimhood. An example is: people in neighboring flat are noisy at night. I drop my manual for the neighbors but still don’t sleep at night. I recognize the noise is a neutral circumstance but still don’t sleep. Do you think that it’s a useful concept to think about us having “needs”? I know Brooke teaches that we shouldn’t look to others to meet our needs, but is it a useful concept to think of humans as having needs (for example for sleep, rest, fun, connection) that they are each responsible for meeting? Right now I think I’m working only at accepting the C, and being passive.