Feeling Unsatisfied Where We Want To Excel The Most

Hey Brooke!

I watched again the Entrepreneur video titled ‘Overcoming Failure’ and even though I have been hearing you for over a year saying that we have to be willing to feel also negative emotions and do the work anyway, it was as if suddenly I heard it for the first time – really heard it.

At that moment I understood that when I decided to lose weight, I knew the next morning, first day on protocol, that I will feel deprived, hunger, and cravings, and I was willing to feel those feelings and stick to my protocol. Thanks to that I lost all the extra weight and feel better than ever.

Then, with writing – I have been trying to write a book for a year now and made almost no progress because even though I laid out an outline for my story, I am judging it as not good enough and postponing the writing act of the chapters, until I get the story better in my head first.

When I do manage to sit down and write my daily quota, I end up unsatisfied from what I wrote. I don’t think I nailed it, or slayed, or created something of value. I just say – well, I got the daily done towards a finished book.
And this thought is highly unsatisfying to my brain. It immediately generates other thoughts of ‘Why bother’ / ‘You’ll never going to make it’ / ‘For YOU it’s just too hard.’

The fact is that on such days I probably did only get the daily done. It probably wasn’t the best sentences ever written, but they were sentences towards a finished draft.

So I get it that because I aspire to be a writer, I do care if I am doing well every time I write, because it’s where I aspire to excel.

If your son decides to become a professional golfer, for example, and is doing really bad each practice, it makes sense that he might want to avoid practicing because each time he engages in this activity, it points to inadequacy in the area that is important for him to excel.

Am I supposed to tell my brain then, that currently writing is not an activity we get satisfaction from?