Could you please evaluate my models? Background is I want to increase my fees with a client I’ve been working with for years but I keep focusing on what I will “‘lose” if I do.

C: increase my fees
T: i’ll lose this influential client because she will replace me with someone who will work for her rates
F: scared
A: don’t ask for an increase, find evidence that i’m easily replaceable, spin in indecision
R: ?

C: increase my fees
T: if i lose this client i will lose an important network and exposure that brings me other work
F: scared
A: don’t ask for an increase, find evidence that i’m easily replaceable, spin in indecision
R: ?

C: increase my fees
T: the value i provide her is definitely worth more $
F: confident
A: decide how much $ my value is worth and ask for it
R: i value myself

C: increase my fees
T: so what if i lose this client, there are others to be had
F: no big deal
A: do what i decide to do without drama
R: so what

The problem is that I find the new thoughts pretty shaky and immediately go to all the fears around what will happen if I lose her. I guess I don’t believe them. I would like help with bridge thoughts please, and any other insight you have.

Also, in your experience, is it always, 100%, better to do things from a place of abundance than from scarcity?

Thank you.