Judgement – ladder thoughts

This month I was doing some work around judging people.
“I can’t believe she posted this photo”
“Wow, he should keep his opinions to himself”
“This is so shallow”
And list goes on.
One of the coaches suggested I really allow myself to judge instead of immediately brushing those thoughts off, which I did. I’ve really explored what I feel when I think that. And it’s exactly opposite of how I want to feel.
I’ve started practicing “he she did that, and it’s okay” and it’s working, but I would like to actually feel a bit more positive than “and it’s okay”. Any recommendations on the next thought to “try on”?

I also wonder if my judgements are rooted in my own inability to express myself? Is there a good way to explore that?

Thank you!