May homework

On Day 4, it asks about how we show up in the relationship. Do you try to get them to love you more for your sake? how? Does it work? I wanted to know if I’m understanding it correctly. I do try to do things or say things that I think are right to get people to love/like me. But I don’t know if it works. I’m thinking no because we aren’t showing up as ourselves right? It’s also related to the other person’s thoughts which is none of our business correct?