More sister work follow up


C- Sister texts “I can’t come I have no one to watch the kids. I’m not much of a drinker so I feel like you and your friends will have a good time.”
T – It’s my bachelorette party and she should be there since she is my sister and my maid of honor.
F – Hurt
A – Blame her for my feelings, believe she’s making excuses and pushing away, try to find a way to “make” her come
R – I don’t own my power to take care of myself (I make her responsible for it)

Model 2
C – Sister texted “”
T – She should be being different through this whole process.
F – Frustrated
A – Blame her for my feelings, want her to change
R – I don’t own my power to take care of myself (I make her responsible for it)

Allow your feelings that your own thoughts are causing instead of resisting them by blaming your sister and thinking she has to change in order for you to feel better.

I was wondering what a model would look like where I would be allowing my feelings and thoughts without blaming her? I find this really helpful because I do this a lot to others!