Uncle family gathering

C: my parents say i was molested by my uncle as a you toddler the rest of my family denies it – we have a memorial and family re-union for my grandparents this weekend and he will be there
T: this is terrible
F: anxious, ashamed
A: act weird and worried what everyone is thinking
R: he has control over my mind

C: as above
T: I am a confident happy fun person
F: confident relaxed
A: have fun
R: i get to choose -he has no control

Thoughts? How do i get there?