VIP Call – parenting teens

The recent VIP was really helpful in the concept of parenting teens. I need some help understanding what Brooke was saying towards the end of the call. In regards to the concept that we cannot change or control people’s behavior (or a teen’s behavior). That makes sense. We can’t parent effectively from that place.

But, she went on to explain that parents shouldn’t implement consequences to change their teen’s behavior in the future. Because, again, you can’t control people’s behavior.

So, what is the point of the consequence at all? I’m totally missing something here – I get it intellectually – adult, teen, etc. we cannot (ever) control people’s behavior or feelings. But they why would we bother implementing the consequence as a parent? What is the point of punishment?

Thanks for clarifying!