When the Result line involves the action or inaction of another person; the role of persuasion in your R line; mind is blown


Hi!

I was listening to Brooke’s Advanced Training on Time from April. She told the story about how she sold her house in three days and gave an exercise to write down everything that would guarantee a result you want. I really loved the story. I did the exercise on a couple of things.

It got my brain churning about the appropriate role of persuasion. In my thought download yesterday, I asked myself, “what does it mean when the ‘result’ line hinges on the cooperation, action or inaction of another person who — of course — has their own free will? Do we rewrite the R line so that it’s wholly within our control? Is it ok to want a certain action out of another person in that desired R line? Should we do everything on that list such that it would be *nearly* impossible for someone to refuse? So that it is compelling for them? Isn’t selling a house within three days a result that involves the buyer actually buying it?”

Below is my attempt to answer these questions for myself:

In the context of selling any thing or idea — if selling is just communicating value, and that value is of service to the other person whose actions are inherently part of your R line — isn’t the R line serving that other person too? The right buyer, literal or figurative, will love your thing or idea once you let your light shine. They are going to then buy the thing out of their own free will, and the person who doesn’t need it won’t.

My September goal was to “make an offer on a suitable investment property.” I was careful to not “violate another person’s free will,” by also including in my R line that I want them to accept the offer: I can’t control the other person. It’s up to them to accept or reject. But on the other hand, we all live in the world, in a human experience with other people, and you can’t throw a pebble into a pond without having a ripple, and depending on how we throw that pebble, we can have an idea about what kind of ripple effect will result.

I did locate a suitable property, and my offer was accepted. My theory is that all the work I did put me in a place where I did in fact get a result that was *virtually inevitable* and the value of accepting my offer was self-evident to the seller, and then, they acted out of their own free will in such a way that I got my desired R line. My other explanation can only be “magic of the Universe.” And that’s great, but fairy dust explanations are the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.

So here is the question I still have: If I want someone to buy my service, or I want someone to sell me their thing on my desired terms — how specific may my result line acknowledge the effect or influence my actions will have on others? So, is it “manipulation” if I know my boyfriend likes the way I look in a certain color of lipstick over another, and I wear the one he likes because I enjoy his reaction? I think that’s just being aware of cause and effect, and needing to be aware of my reasons and know if I like the reason or not. Right? Am I correct that what really matters here that I like my reasons for wanting what is in that R line, and it is in integrity for me? I feel like I am starting to understand what Brooke and Stacey have meant when they discuss why selling benefits the person who is your potential buyer. The first time I heard that, I was like, “hmm.” And I’m realizing that some old dogma that wanting results in my life will somehow magically “violate the free will of another” has kept my life under some very artificial limits.

My head might explode now, in a good way 🙂