Hi Brooke

I have a 7 month old daughter.

I have trouble knowing what the appropriate response is to her cries are. She cosleeps with me and my husband and wre are trying to transition her to a crib off and on for the last 3-4 months. My reasons for this are because i would love to be able to put her in the crib at 7 and then have a few hours in the evening at night for myself. However I have been unsuccessful. I have tried different methods but every time I transition her to the crib she cries and cries and cries until I can’t stand it anymore and I let her sleep in the bed with me

My husband and nanny often make comments to me like “you’re too soft” or “you let her manipulate you” or “you are just going to coddle her, if you don’t let her struggle she will never learn to do things on her own and is going to be sensitive like you”

So I start to blame and doubt myself and Indulging in overwhelm.

I know that my job isn’t to shelter her from all pain. But it’s hard for me to let her cry because I feel like not responding to her crying is like abandoning her

My main fear is that she will develop some sort of belief in her brain that she’s alone and that her cries for help are not worthy of being answered.

When it comes to all the other physical things they have to learn, like crawling or rolling over, walking etc…. we don’t just let them cry and figure it on their own. so I feel like I’m having some sort of mental block when it comes to how to help her learn how to sleep by herself?

Sorry, clearly my thoughts are all over the map with this one which is why I think I feel so much stress around it.

Could you give me some advice on how to approach this? I’ve been doing models but I feel like I’m getting nowhere

Thanks!