A Sister’s Role


My older sister has bipolar and a personality disorder. She has one daughter left at home, her 18 year old son is living with me and her ex-husband is in prison. There is a long story behind this, but I will just say that I am getting contacted by other people about the concerning emails and facebook posts that she is putting up. I have been concerned that she needs more help, medication or maybe even time in a hospital. I do not know what my role is in this situation and am nervous to have a frank conversation with her, because it doesn’t seem like it has worked in the past.

C: My sister is sending me texts about illnesses, emailing 3 people and all 3 have told me that they are concerned about her
T: I have no idea what my role is here
F: Anxiety
A: Worry, play our scenarios, ask friends, don’t talk to my sister
R: I have no role in helping my sister

C: My sister is sending me texts about illnesses, emailing 3 people and all 3 have told me that they are concerned about her
T: I don’t want to take on more than I can handle
F: Trapped
A: Worry, avoid, ask others, push the thoughts away
R: I take on all of the worry and remain stuck and spinning

I am trying to find a thought that helps me feel ” confident ” or ” empowered “, but I go back into fear of getting involved in her situation. ( My mother has passed and my father will not speak to her and I am her only sibling )