Acquiescence


During my coaching sessions, I am noticing some patterns coming up for me regarding acquiescence. I have been a people pleaser all of my life. I believe this comes from my relationship with my mother as I feared getting in trouble with her growing up. I realize that in emotional adulthood, I must take responsibility for my thoughts but I tend to acquiesce often to avoid conflict. For instance, before I joined LCS, I hired a life coach because I was looking for a coach to help me determine my next career goals.

I knew very little about life coaching at the time and found her from one of her Facebook ads. She gave me a free session and I thought she was good so I signed a 6-month contract with her for $3,500.00. This is an enormous amount of money for me but I felt she would be worth it.

She offered curriculum on a weekly basis and would meet with me every 2-3 weeks. The lessons were intense and required a lot of writing and I thought that our sessions would build upon the lessons. Instead, I found her disorganized as she did not review the homework I submitted to her prior and she often could not keep track of where I was in the lessons. Our sessions always went in directions that seemed random.

After 3 months, I got tired of it and stopped trying. I stopped doing lessons and stopped scheduling sessions. I did not contact her to let her know my dissatisfaction, I just let it drop. She never contacted me to follow up. It has been a year and I am still embarrassed by how I handled this. I would rather run and hide than confront someone that I paid a lot of money to to help me. I told a friend this story the other day and she looked at me like I was nuts for not sharing my opinions with this coach. I would rather speak my mind than acquiesce but I am not sure where to start with my thoughts. Thanks