Affectionate relationship goal

I am not in a loving and affectionate relationship with my husband. We stubbornly exist with each other. I used to feel like I was responsible for our relationship. My husband would probably say it is because of me and my actions. But it takes two to have a relationship. So I can’t be totally to blame.

At this point I don’t think I want to or can muster up caring, warm feelings for him. This is why I joined scholars and I continue to do the work. I am feeling more empowered and clearer in thoughts and staying open to future developments. Any suggestions? Working toward a goal of having a loving and creative relationship.