Alcoholic Spouse

I’ve done a lot of work to find my happiness around the circumstance of my husband’s overdrinking. Especially on the weekends when he is always drunk or hungover- I used to be miserable, angry and resentful that I had 100% responsibility for the kids. I’ve managed my mind a TON around this and now I love the weekends, its my special time with them, and I have found true happiness without him changing one bit (thank you LCS!)

Today- someone threw me off balance my accusing me of enabling him. Since I have release all expectation that he care for the kids on the weekends, they see that as letting him off the hook and me enabling his drinking.

Any insight welcome. I’m happier like this compared to a year ago- but am I making it harder for him to change since I’m protecting him from the negative effects of his drinking?