Alligning with purpose

My purpose has to do with standing firm in my own worth and helping others stand firm in theirs (thanks for the help in tweaking this- it is perfect). Yesterday I said some things out loud in front of others about how it feels to be married to a widower (which I am) and have been struggling with shame and guilt ever since- thoughts like this: “if i were a stronger, more confident person, i wouldn’t have those thoughts or need the validation” etc… So in doing my homework, no i am not living in alignment with my purpose today. So how do i dismiss the guilt and shame, allow myself to feel what i am going to feel and move on? Right now i want to climb into a hole.