My current model: C) just had dinner with husband & kids and they wanted to go get ice cream for dessert. T) I’d better not go into the ice cream place because I will be tempted. F) neutral feeling – not sad but not happy A) currently sitting in the car in the parking lot while the rest of my family eats ice cream inside R) I get to put a bead in my urge jar when I get home ………….My question is this: By choosing to sit in the car instead of going into the ice cream parlor to watch my family eat ice cream, am I AVOIDING an urge rather than ALLOWING it??? But it seems silly and unnecessary for me to sit there and watch them eat the ice cream knowing that it would create cravings for me. It’s like, why would an alcoholic want to go into a bar and just watch other people drink???