In my last couple relationships I have had a pattern of breaking up and then getting back together, sometimes multiple times. I have bailed on my current partner once already and now I am feeling the urge to say goodbye again. I see this pattern and theres a big part of me that doesn’t want to keep repeating the same thing over and over. Where I feel torn is, am I going against my instincts for the sake of not doing what I always do, which feels like I may be settling… Or am I giving up too soon and bailing and repeating the same pattern over again.
You may not be into Astrology but I’m a Gemini, which seriously makes me feel like I have two different people inside of me!! You talked about cognitive dissonance, thats pretty much how I feel much of the time lol!
I’m sure this is just fear of making the wrong decision. I know that what ever decision I make will be the right one… I guess what I’m asking is, how do you know if you’re giving up or if you’re settling for the sake of not failing again??
Have you seen this with some of the people you’ve coached?