Am I too judgey?


I consider myself to be judgemental of the people around me. I have a “if you have wronged me (before I fully trust you), it will be hard for me to give you another chance” mentality. In other words, I love people but if there is something about the person’s character I do not agree with, I choose to not associate with them. And I believe this behavior has actually been quite beneficial for me. I have the most amazing friends, family, and support system I could ever have asked for. One part of it is because I just got incredibly lucky with the people in my life but I also think another part is my “filtering” system that I described above.

On the flip side, I have noticed that sometimes this behavior sometimes even follows me on consult calls and I automatically make assumptions about my client that don’t serve me well (they can’t afford my sessions, they will be difficult to work with, etc.)

The reason I am struggling with this now is it comes down to the fact that there’s a part of me that likes the benefits the judgey behavior has gotten for me (amazing friends and people around me) and another part that wishes I could be more open minded and give people more chances (prospective clients, friends of friends, strangers, etc.). So my q is – how can I get the best of both worlds?

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R – I am surrounded by amazing people and have clients that would love to work with me and pay for my services

Thank you so much for reading and supplying your amazing response.