Hi there,

I’m in a relationship where I keep going back and forth relating to how I feel about the person. I have tried to do the model to think it through, but I can’t seem to figure it out. It looks like this.


Circumstance: I’m half in, half out of this relationship.
Thought: I don’t know what I want
Feeling: ambivalence
Action: processing it, thinking about it a lot
Results: feel obsessive, lack of clarity.

Circumstance: I make a decision about the relationship
Thought: I am able to know what I want
Feeling: relief
Action; hold true to my decision
ResultL move on

But the thing is, how do I figure out which path to take? Do I write about it? I don’t seem to be getting clarity by writing. I need more tools to unpack it, could you point me in the right direction?

The relationship is harmful to me in some ways, but also seems positive in others. I think I may never meet someone like him again. I can change my thoughts about that, but what if it’s true?

so confused.