Annoying thoughts about husband

I noticed that I’m annoyed often by my husband’s habits. Things that are frequent and mundane and part of being a human… but when he does it, I often feel annoyed. I think if other person did something similar I might not feel anything, or I might even feel empathy.

But, with him, I find it really annoying a lot of the time! He’s really groggy and grumpy in the morning. I find it annoying. He uses the bathroom frequently and I find it annoying and interrupting to our life… those are two examples.

I realize I’m thinking thoughts like:

– other husbands don’t do this/act like this
– I wish he was more alert and cheerful in the morning
– I wish he was different

But, now what? I feel myself tightening around him and would like to be less annoyed.