Arguing with reality tied to victim mentality

When I argue with reality I see victim mentality. Is victim mentality what I work on? Or is there something deeper like ego work?
It is never big things, always small and simple aggravations like:
a remote control not working
spilling coffee
dropping something
computer not working
Generally my thoughts with these are “of course that happened” in a very victim-y way. Also “are you kidding me? why can’t you (yes, I address the thing as a person) just do what you are supposed to do?”