Baby Guilt


I’ve a full time job and work in shifts. I also have a 19 month old for whom I’ve an excellent nanny. I was with my baby for first 3 months on maternity leave. I felt separation anxiety more than my baby. It has reduced significantly since last 6 months and I’ve started to focus on other aspects of my life. Unfortunately, now she has started to get separation anxiety which is building guilt in me. I’m struggling with the thoughts like

I should spend all my free time with her so that I’m satisfied that I love her vs I should focus on my self care by doing yoga , scs, ccp.
I can manage scs and ccp around my kid but for yoga I need to leave her and go. I skip it sometimes but I don’t want to make a habit of it. I’ve heard mother’s guilt will never disappear and if I believe that I want to manage it.

Unintentional Model
C working mother’s mindset
T I should spend as much time with my toddler as possible ??
F guilt
A be with the kid while trying to juggle other things
R not show up as a happy mom

Intentional Model
C working mother’s mindset
T It’s all a game designed by me so that everyone can have fun
F excited
A plan guilt free time for the kid as well as self
R show up as a happy mom