The C below set off a number of thoughts. The C happened on a call and in the moment MODEL 1 happened. After the call, I became aware of the other models which seemed to be happening at the same time and to have the same underlying T, A and R. Please let me know what you see here. Many thanks!

C
I’m in CCP. I was coaching a peer. The peer gave this feedback: “It felt like at times I was being given a lecture.”

ON THE CALL, MODEL 1

T
I can totally see that

F
Acceptance

A
Thanked her for feedback
Shared how helpful it was to hear
Said that while at the time I was not aware of it, I can see how/where I was doing more telling than showing
Apologized for the lecture-like delivery

R
Wanting to grow
Seeing where I can grow

POST CALL | MODEL 2

T
I am never going to be a good coach
So what? I’m never going to be a good anything
So what? No one will like me, I’ll be unlovable
So what? I’ll be alone

F
Sad

A
Cry
Do a thought download

R
Process pain

POST CALL | MODEL 3

T
I’m such an idiot
So what? No one would love an idiot
So what? I’ll be alone

F
Ashamed

A
Cry
Do a thought download

R
Process pain

As I was writing these models, this great thing happened:

I had the thought, “Who do you think you are for being confident, thinking you could become a good coach, dreaming of becoming a good coach?” My response: “Capable.”