Being too hard on myself

Hi Brooke!
I am trying to be kinder to myself as I am constantly beating myself up and have been told numerous times throughout my adulthood. I have recently been told this again by a new co-worker, someone who doesn’t know me at all. I don’t even know I’m doing it which is the worst part and I really want to accept myself just as I am. How can I learn to be more aware of myself so I can love me!!