What’ the best way to “influence” the thinking of our children ?

Hi Brooke,

What would be, according to you, the best way to influence the thinking of our children in order for them to behave a certain way ?
– Would it be to teach them the model ?
– To show them what ‘s they are thinking ( And with some teenagers… Not sure we can have this level of communication) and what’s the results this is bringing them ?
– To show them what thought we would be thinking if we were in their shoes ?

Any other ideas ?
Do you think this is something totally vain because we can’t control them ?
Influencing should be possible, no ?

Do you have some examples to share from your own parenting experience ?