Big Feelings

I have stopped using food to buffer and I love that! I do really well not buffering in other ways most of the time, but sometimes when I’m feeling a big emotion, instead of eating I just act out the emotion instead of processing it. This looks like yelling, being impatient with others if I’m really angry or frustrated. I don’t want to act this way and even though in the moment I recognize what I’m doing, it doesn’t seem to help me get out of it. Is going to “the watcher” the secret to experiencing the emotion? I think I have always turned to carbs for my big emotions for so many years and now I’m struggling with channeling them in a healthy, less relationship-damaging way.